Almost every channel u turn to has something about enhancements. Whether its weight loss, "butt adds"or new lashes... There are a ton of options at ur fingertips. If u didn't have self esteem issues before.... I bet after looking at one too many infomercials, u can find SOMETHING that needs improvement.
My question is this.. Who decides what features are acceptable or not acceptable? Is it the online BMI calculator that says ur 5'4 build is overweight bc u weigh 135 lbs instead of 125 lbs... Or is it Dr Oz who says ur 'inherited' moles are unattractive and should be removed... No.. No.. It's Oprah.. She's lost almost 100 pounds by changing her eating habits-- and u should too bc the 'soul food' u grew up on is killing u.. GTFOH!!!
YOUR appearance is YOUR choice. YOU have to walk around with that body.. YOU have to walk around with those moles.. YOU have to walk around with a 'big' butt. And keeping it real, if YOU have no problems with ur flaws (note: they're only flaws if u don't like them) why the hell should someone else? Im just saying....
I heard a girl say today she needed to lose weight bc 'her man said she was getting chunky'.. Smh I thought she was built quite nicely.. Although she would prob look better without the 'cherry' and pink highlights....kmsl.. So I asked her, do YOU think ur getting chunky?? And u know what her reply was? No... But he does... and I GOTTA make my man happy..(with a frown on her face)
Pump the BRAKES! Seriously?
Change...whether it's mental or cosmetic SHOULD NOT be done based on someone else's opinion of u. Once u start doing that, u lose the person u are. Now...there are some instances where someone may ASK their mate, "baby, am I gaining weight?" or.... they may say...."Bay...Im gaining weight huh?" and the mate says yes or co signs... but that's different... THEY are initiating the conversation. SELF esteem starts with SELF. No ifs, ands or buts....
So, the next time someone steps to you and points out a flaw, you tell them ur perfect the way you are...lol...and when they say...says who (and trust me they will) u look them in the face and say, ME! I SAY SO.... lol Don't hate the playa...hate the game. I gotta call it like I see it.
hmmmm.... It's not as bad as you think. You will be surprised to find that while we are examining ourselves under a high-powered microscope for all of our various real and imagined flaws, others view quite differently. Every person has their favorite feature. Lips, legs, eyes, oh my! It is a varied list depending on who is looking your way. Something about you might catch their eye that is seemingly insignificant, even quirky, in fact. Aaah, but to hold anothers gaze, the picture of you must be completed, but not exactly the way you think....
Be kind to your body. Care for it well. It is the only one YOU have. Take responsibility for making yours a body YOU will be proud to present to your mate...Do the work it takes to maintain a sense of well-being. Eat right, sleep and exercise. If you feel good about your body, "your mate will too."
Mista's 13: Key Word....YOU...meaning how you feel about your "Sexy"...it is what it is.
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