RO'S WISDOM.... Some of us had beautiful past....we have a beautiful present..and we look forward to a beautiful future. We were able to build from our mistakes and move on to the place we are today. Unfortunately, that's not always the case....the past can be an ugly reminder of ur failures as well as a security blanket to NOT move forward....
God created yesterday, today and tomorrow..... Yesterday is gone....Today should be lived....and tomorrow is a blessing (if HE sees fit to allow u life) So...I have to wonder...why are we holding on to the PAST?
I cant speak for anyone else but I used to bounce back to the past bc it was/is familiar. Familiar in the sense of people...situations....I just knew what the outcome would be. But, what I started to realize was...the past is over. All those people and situations have changed....and not all of them for the good.
Divorce is a beautiful thing. I know ppl are reading this going WTH? kmsl...but IT IS. Divorce basically FORCES you to look at what went wrong and why....it FORCES you to learn from ur mistakes so u dont repeat them....it FORCES you to do a SELF CHECK and accept your SELF WORTH (without negotiation). It's the reason I can blog today about leaving the past in the past.
Reaching back in ur past is a part of fear. Ur scared of the new....and u'd like an easy fix. Well....let me tell u this...LIFE isn't easy. There are times u will fall....there are times u will fail...it's just a part of the crooked path we travel in hopes of finding a straightaway. You won't get there going backwards...u won't get there detouring...the road to LIFE is designed to move forward. Lock the door to ur past...let it stay where it is....no...don't forget it...but know it's no longer needed. If God meant for us to live in the past, He wouldn't have created TODAY and TOMORROW.
Mista's 13 WAY OUT... there is a way out, a stage of recovery that I found to be healthy. That is openness. Being transparent and open is an honest desire to face the truth and deal with change. Openness allows you to begin making plans about the future, not spend hours reliving the pasts.
Acceptance of what has happened and learning how to go on requires openness. What I came to know is the understanding that everyone goes through this experience to one degree or another in various ways. Life is a process of change. Society changes, nations change, people change. You cannot live a healthy life and live in the past. Do not let the failures of the past interfere with your future.
There is life after divorce, life after separation, life after a loved one dies, and life after being jilted. But you first have to find hope... in forgiveness... this removes any walls rather vertical or as well as horizontal, but this one thing I could share most is, "forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before"(Philippians 3:13) it's amazing what you find when you seek from the BiG BooK OF dECISIONS...
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