We are one...

"Can't understand
Why we treat each other in this way
Taking up time
With the silly silly games we play
We've got our love
And no matter how it's said or done

We are one no matter what we do
We are one love will see us through
We are one and that's the way it is

Sometimes I feel
That we try and make each other sad
The things we do
How we make eachother feel so bad
We've got so much
We could all be having so much fun

We are one from the very start
We are one deep down in your heart
We are one
And that's the way it is".....

Definitely one of my favorite songs. I love the message it yields and the feeling it gives when I hear it. Ironically it applies to most relationships... Most marriages.. It puts it all on "front street" as it should be... Rather than the picking and choosing what we encounter with our egos.

Which brings me to this question.. "Should egos have a place in any relationship?" Sure egos are inevitable... We all have an ego. But should it be the basis of what u share or don't share in the relationship? Does having an ego divide the concept of being one?

 Ahhh, Mrs Me... This is the storm of pride going before destruction.

The "I" or self of any person .... a person as thinking, feeling, and willing, and distinguishing itself from the selves ... Smh, do two walk together unless they agree ? I see it like this... a humble heart has no room for ego or pride or arrogance because it recognizes that all we have and all we are comes from God (for who makes us different from anyone else) And if you did receive it, why carry on as though you did not?

We are all fearfully wonderfully made. Trust when I say ... It's the enemy that tells us we have no value... that we're flawed, but make no mistake about it we have value. We all have a past and a struggle. We're not perfect, we're just forgiven. Besides love lets the other win (wink)... "Do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others"~Philippians

After all, WE ARE ONE...

"Disagree with dignity"...

"I have fallen out of love with you"... "If you don't want to do it, I can get someone else." It's so simple to read a person in thick of conflict. They're actually saying, I'm not committed to you. I don't love you unconditionally, but only when I'm feeling or if the circumstance is selfishly in my favor. lol, Smh.... Thinking.. the deepest, most heartbreaking ...damage you'll ever do or ever have done to a relationship is most likely in thick of conflict. This is when your pride is strongest. And when you're most selfish and judgmental. Your words contain the most...... venom. Trust when I say, you better put your foot on the brakes. "Disagree with dignity"... because love only fights fair. "It is better to sit on the corner of the roof than with a contentious woman"~ Proverbs.. This verse is about dealing with conflict in such a way that you come out healthier on the other side. Both of You. Together. You see... I know I need the kind of foundation that's stronger than mere ... friendship or sexual attraction. The kind of something that won't sway by time or circumstance. "Agape love" ... even though, that love which began for the wrong reasons can be restored and redeemed. If.. I'm not your everything.... please replace me, I'm not irreplaceable. Smiling, because I dare to love 1 Corinthians 13.

Wow Mista... Is there really a process where couples can disagree with dignity? lol shaking my head.... Dignity typically checks out the second the argument goes from "I'm not saying anything" to "has this negro lost his mind"?! As much as we wanna take the higher road, the truth of the matter is, we don't. Yes, we say things we shouldn't say... Yes, we point out things we shouldn't show... And we most definitely stop listening when we should listen.  We go into the argument knowing that when it's all over, someone is gonna get mad, there will be a period of silence and then the "make up". It's a vicious cycle. But what people don't admit is, there is some truth to the things you've expressed.... I don't care how many people say they didn't mean it.. THEY REALLY DID. So why lie for the sake of an argument? If more people expressed their feelings regularly, there wouldn't be a need to disagree with dignity. Your mate would know when ur pissed.  Your mate would know when ur feeding them bs. And they definitely would know that even though u love them, u get tired of the same ole ish. Bottom line.. If ur honest with ur mate and u communicate honestly no matter what, those arguments will be few and far between anyway. Save urself the grief.. The headaches.. And take those small body shots. I'd rather take the body shots any day rather than a knockout.... Those are harder come back from. Ijs...

Mista.. Glad ur back :)