I was sitting here thinking about how we would come back after our hiatus. It's been complicated...but despite it all, we're still friends. Mista and I both have big hearts...we don't mind falling...and if we fail...well, we just try again. After all, if life was perfect, we'd have no purpose. Ijs.....
Ok..back to blogging...it's sooooo easy to get off track.
Imma start off by asking....is there really a such thing as Friends with Benefits? I mean, think about it...is it really smart to "cross the line" with a friend? Would you wanna give up the goodies to someone who only regards u as a "friend"? Me personally, I think the term is cop out bc basically what ur doing is either establishing or testing a relationship with someone you already know. U leave the term friend in it so if it doesn't work, u can say well, "I think we're better as friends." It's bullsh%&!
Anyone who has more than one night of endless sex with someone is going to have feelings of some sort. (unless ur just a total a$$ with no heart--and even then u just don't admit it) So.....the more u have sex....the more feelings surface. Whether they are good feelings or bad feelings, feelings WILL occur. How could that ever really become a benefit?
Society has taken friendship and put it in the wrong mold. It's almost like... making jello and pouring it into a cement mold. It doesn't fit. Yes, the substance is there, but it will never fill or conform true to its existence. Friends are people who are there through it all. They know ur faults, ur likes, ur dislikes...and no matter how far u stray, they remain by ur side. A friend can see u totally nude and not even think about it...except maybe to say, umm...did u use lotion today? lol Benefits....a benefit is a reward for an act. U are rewarded for something u did, said etc. My thing is this, if I do something for a friend, I do it because that's my friend....not for a reward. and...even better....I benefit from the things I learn through my friend...we learn together. It's part of the friendship...not a separate "benefit package"...this isn't a job! kmsl
Sooo....Stop it already with the Friends with Benefits term. Keep it simple....let it remain how it is...Cutty Buddy...OPP...side piece...whatever the case may be. Leave that term for Hollywood, because "in real life" it's nothing but comedy.
(stepping off my soap box).....Mista...ur up.
Mista With Benefits you say.... kmsl, RO ain't having none of that talk..... lady's this is a concept some women have an extremely hard time comprehending from a man's perspective, but I'm going to make a strong attempt to bring some clarity to it. I hate to sound repetitive, but men are simple creatures. We operate more by instinct than women do.... yes, almost like a common animal, if that helps you to understand. As much as I hate to say it, we're almost like a puppies. Smh .. > I did not say Dog that's so cliche... For example, if you feed a puppy, play ball with him, rub his belly, pat him on the head, talk lovingly to him, and show him the smallest degree of love, he will be your buddy for life. You can open the gate and he'll stay without ever running away because he appreciates your goodness. In a nut shell, out goes the term "friends with benefits" .... you see any highly affected seducer knows that no man can ever be sexually with one woman and just be the "friend with benefits".... just like the little puppies we'll want to guard and stay.... other then that the puppy needs to become a dog.... sleeping with more than one woman... smh, at that point it would truly not be a benefit.... can you say.... a "epidemic".... In Mister's opinion friends with benefits is what one or the other with in the friendship is saying that .... hey you're not what I'm looking for, but you'll do until the ONE comes over the hill..ijs who wants to be the go between rebound brotha/sista.. a playmate not a soulmate. Don't play yourself. Do the right thing, and save yourself the headaches and the heartaches.... better alone than poorly accompanied. If you're going to work to afford yourself the finer things in life, put forth the work to attain a man who reflects your standards. Coworkers, girlfriends, and platonic guy friends are a nice complement for the woman afraid, but none of them can replace the joy of a fruitful relationship with your own Mister...
Ok..back to blogging...it's sooooo easy to get off track.
Imma start off by asking....is there really a such thing as Friends with Benefits? I mean, think about it...is it really smart to "cross the line" with a friend? Would you wanna give up the goodies to someone who only regards u as a "friend"? Me personally, I think the term is cop out bc basically what ur doing is either establishing or testing a relationship with someone you already know. U leave the term friend in it so if it doesn't work, u can say well, "I think we're better as friends." It's bullsh%&!
Anyone who has more than one night of endless sex with someone is going to have feelings of some sort. (unless ur just a total a$$ with no heart--and even then u just don't admit it) So.....the more u have sex....the more feelings surface. Whether they are good feelings or bad feelings, feelings WILL occur. How could that ever really become a benefit?
Society has taken friendship and put it in the wrong mold. It's almost like... making jello and pouring it into a cement mold. It doesn't fit. Yes, the substance is there, but it will never fill or conform true to its existence. Friends are people who are there through it all. They know ur faults, ur likes, ur dislikes...and no matter how far u stray, they remain by ur side. A friend can see u totally nude and not even think about it...except maybe to say, umm...did u use lotion today? lol Benefits....a benefit is a reward for an act. U are rewarded for something u did, said etc. My thing is this, if I do something for a friend, I do it because that's my friend....not for a reward. and...even better....I benefit from the things I learn through my friend...we learn together. It's part of the friendship...not a separate "benefit package"...this isn't a job! kmsl
Sooo....Stop it already with the Friends with Benefits term. Keep it simple....let it remain how it is...Cutty Buddy...OPP...side piece...whatever the case may be. Leave that term for Hollywood, because "in real life" it's nothing but comedy.
(stepping off my soap box).....Mista...ur up.
Mista With Benefits you say.... kmsl, RO ain't having none of that talk..... lady's this is a concept some women have an extremely hard time comprehending from a man's perspective, but I'm going to make a strong attempt to bring some clarity to it. I hate to sound repetitive, but men are simple creatures. We operate more by instinct than women do.... yes, almost like a common animal, if that helps you to understand. As much as I hate to say it, we're almost like a puppies. Smh .. > I did not say Dog that's so cliche... For example, if you feed a puppy, play ball with him, rub his belly, pat him on the head, talk lovingly to him, and show him the smallest degree of love, he will be your buddy for life. You can open the gate and he'll stay without ever running away because he appreciates your goodness. In a nut shell, out goes the term "friends with benefits" .... you see any highly affected seducer knows that no man can ever be sexually with one woman and just be the "friend with benefits".... just like the little puppies we'll want to guard and stay.... other then that the puppy needs to become a dog.... sleeping with more than one woman... smh, at that point it would truly not be a benefit.... can you say.... a "epidemic".... In Mister's opinion friends with benefits is what one or the other with in the friendship is saying that .... hey you're not what I'm looking for, but you'll do until the ONE comes over the hill..ijs who wants to be the go between rebound brotha/sista.. a playmate not a soulmate. Don't play yourself. Do the right thing, and save yourself the headaches and the heartaches.... better alone than poorly accompanied. If you're going to work to afford yourself the finer things in life, put forth the work to attain a man who reflects your standards. Coworkers, girlfriends, and platonic guy friends are a nice complement for the woman afraid, but none of them can replace the joy of a fruitful relationship with your own Mister...
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