Ok... I don't know how many ways to say this, but...if you can't communicate with or don't trust ur mate, u reallllly don't need to be with them. You all are in a committed relationship...you all made the decision to become a couple...so why can't you just ask??? Yeah, they may lie...but as with everything, "what goes on in the dark, eventually comes to light.".... So...ask...let'em lie...sooner or later, the door will not only unlock, but you'll have the key. Stop playing private investigator..stop tryna fit the pieces in the wrong puzzle! Ask! lol ....so what he's been out with the fellas and u see and extra meal on his receipt...or fellas....so what she's been out with the girls and she's "too tired" to have sex....ask wtf is going on.....lol smh And stop laughing and denying it....cause you know u've done it...lol..We all are creatures of nature...admit it or not.
I wanna ask you...do you stop for a second and think...."Do I REALLY wanna know the answer?" Betta yet... do you think about how you will respond if your intuition is true? Probably not. I'll take a guess and say that about 40 percent of ur suspicions are truly "explainable"...the other 60...yeah...it's probably not. Are you ready to confront ur mate about what he/she is doing? And...when u do...are you willing to explain instances, he/she will bring up about YOU since "we're just putting things out there"? Chances are....NOPE. Don't think it'll be a one sided battle...all dogs attack when cornered...u know that.
The absence of trust in any relationship is fatal. It blocks out any form of communication and brings in deceit.... I don't know about you, but, I couldn't sleep every night next to someone I didn't trust. I couldn't even RESPECT someone I didn't trust. That's just me though. Im not telling you to settle...Im not asking u to be naive...all Im asking is, be open to ur mate. Let them know ur suspicions. If he/she truly cares about u, they will either do whatever is in their power to to fix it, (so u don't think that again) or come clean by admitting it and try to work it out. TrUSt is plural...it takes two...US...
Mista's 13: Let's get down to the real issue here.... Love knows about the Depreciation Room(not trusting) and does not live in denial that it exists. But love chooses not to live there. YOU MUST decide to stop running to this room and lingering there after every frustrating event in your relationship. It does you no good and drains the joy out of your marriage.
Love chooses to believe the best about people. It gives them the benefit of the doubt. It refuses to fill in the unknowns with negative assumptions. And when our worst hopes are proven to be true, love makes every effort to deal with them and move forward. As much as possible, love focuses on the positive.
It's time to start thinking differently. It's time to let love lead your thoughts and focus. The only reason you should glance in the door of the Depreciation Room is to know how to pray for your mate. And the only reason you should ever stop to visit the room is to write all over the wall.... Coverd In Love. Repeat after Mista... say, Hey love.... it's time to move into the APPRECIATION ROOM, to settle down and make it home.
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