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I've come to realize that relationships are no accident. No matter how horrible or foul or degrading the relationship ended, it happened for a reason. I believe relationships or lack of....controls ur destiny. Whatever it is you did or said affected the next decision in ur life.....yeah, u can pick the domino up and play again, but the end result will NEVER be the same.
For a person like me that is always thinking...you can just imagine how my life is. lol I'm constantly fixing things that doesn't need fixing (but in my head it does)...and the things that need to be fixed...well I've thought about it so much until I can't figure out why it needed to be fixed in the first place. In the end, I become an emotional bag of nerves....break down and cry...dump the damaged nerves...and well wait for the next bag to fill. The more I repeat, the less nerves I damage, the less I overthink....bc finally I understand, What God allows is perfect.
I said all this to say, you are in control of your life..ur relationship...Everything starts and ends with you. Ur mate's attitude should mirror that as well. Stop allowing people to plant seeds of doubt... There's nothing with playing devil's advocate...but essentially you make the final decision. Stop blaming other people for your life's status- ur failed relationship. Like Tyrese says, "The sooner you clean out the bs, the clearer life will become."
For a person like me that is always thinking...you can just imagine how my life is. lol I'm constantly fixing things that doesn't need fixing (but in my head it does)...and the things that need to be fixed...well I've thought about it so much until I can't figure out why it needed to be fixed in the first place. In the end, I become an emotional bag of nerves....break down and cry...dump the damaged nerves...and well wait for the next bag to fill. The more I repeat, the less nerves I damage, the less I overthink....bc finally I understand, What God allows is perfect.
I said all this to say, you are in control of your life..ur relationship...Everything starts and ends with you. Ur mate's attitude should mirror that as well. Stop allowing people to plant seeds of doubt... There's nothing with playing devil's advocate...but essentially you make the final decision. Stop blaming other people for your life's status- ur failed relationship. Like Tyrese says, "The sooner you clean out the bs, the clearer life will become."
...take us home Mista.
The Pervasive Influence of the Past
RoW.....uh!! you got this "thinking" thing running...... Okay let's see ...... Mista's Thoughts vs Doubt in Relationships is that much of what makes up today and even tomorrow seems to be an extension or variation of what has come before. What we see as possible .....what we are working toward...... is essentially a more, better or different version of the past. Often, we allow our fears and anxieties to stop us.... to determine how much we'll risk, and limit the range of..... What God allows is perfect.
If you fill your mind with fear, doubt, and unbelief in your ability to connect within your relationship. The forces of infinite intelligence will take this spirit of unbelief and use it as a pattern by which your subconscious mind will translate it into its physical equivalent. If you think he's to good to be true, he won't .... If you think she can't be this honest, she won't..... If you think you'll lose, you're lost .... For out of the world we find, relationship success begins with a couple's will... it's all in the state of mind.
When we see that our relationship to our anxieties and fears inadvertently gives us a life of our own, from naysayer, haters and the past........ something else becomes possible. We find ourselves being powerful in the face of what has stopped us before, and free to rediscover and pursue our passions in life. What I am convinced of is this....... God's Will is that you become the person He desires.... so often we seem to think of God's Will as leading to a certain place or person. His will leads us to be a certain person, the son or daughter He wants to spend eternity with. We simply need to proceed in a dating relationship until it's obvious that you've hit a dead end. That's what happens when God's Will become clear as time progress. At this point, whoever you choose to be with will be God's Will.
Being given this technology for putting the past where it belongs..... in the past. We now can begin to design our lives as a free and authentic expression..... from what is possible, rather than what has been. Unencumbered by the past, we experience a greater level of vitality, well-being and fun, and are able to enjoy a new-found sense of connection and intimacy for true Oneness in our relationship.
The nature of choice is to be the author of our own lives in any and all relationships.....OWN YOUR CHOICE.
thats Mista's 13 cents.
The Pervasive Influence of the Past
RoW.....uh!! you got this "thinking" thing running...... Okay let's see ...... Mista's Thoughts vs Doubt in Relationships is that much of what makes up today and even tomorrow seems to be an extension or variation of what has come before. What we see as possible .....what we are working toward...... is essentially a more, better or different version of the past. Often, we allow our fears and anxieties to stop us.... to determine how much we'll risk, and limit the range of..... What God allows is perfect.
If you fill your mind with fear, doubt, and unbelief in your ability to connect within your relationship. The forces of infinite intelligence will take this spirit of unbelief and use it as a pattern by which your subconscious mind will translate it into its physical equivalent. If you think he's to good to be true, he won't .... If you think she can't be this honest, she won't..... If you think you'll lose, you're lost .... For out of the world we find, relationship success begins with a couple's will... it's all in the state of mind.
When we see that our relationship to our anxieties and fears inadvertently gives us a life of our own, from naysayer, haters and the past........ something else becomes possible. We find ourselves being powerful in the face of what has stopped us before, and free to rediscover and pursue our passions in life. What I am convinced of is this....... God's Will is that you become the person He desires.... so often we seem to think of God's Will as leading to a certain place or person. His will leads us to be a certain person, the son or daughter He wants to spend eternity with. We simply need to proceed in a dating relationship until it's obvious that you've hit a dead end. That's what happens when God's Will become clear as time progress. At this point, whoever you choose to be with will be God's Will.
Being given this technology for putting the past where it belongs..... in the past. We now can begin to design our lives as a free and authentic expression..... from what is possible, rather than what has been. Unencumbered by the past, we experience a greater level of vitality, well-being and fun, and are able to enjoy a new-found sense of connection and intimacy for true Oneness in our relationship.
The nature of choice is to be the author of our own lives in any and all relationships.....OWN YOUR CHOICE.
thats Mista's 13 cents.
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