"Disagree with dignity"...

"I have fallen out of love with you"... "If you don't want to do it, I can get someone else." It's so simple to read a person in thick of conflict. They're actually saying, I'm not committed to you. I don't love you unconditionally, but only when I'm feeling or if the circumstance is selfishly in my favor. lol, Smh.... Thinking.. the deepest, most heartbreaking ...damage you'll ever do or ever have done to a relationship is most likely in thick of conflict. This is when your pride is strongest. And when you're most selfish and judgmental. Your words contain the most...... venom. Trust when I say, you better put your foot on the brakes. "Disagree with dignity"... because love only fights fair. "It is better to sit on the corner of the roof than with a contentious woman"~ Proverbs.. This verse is about dealing with conflict in such a way that you come out healthier on the other side. Both of You. Together. You see... I know I need the kind of foundation that's stronger than mere ... friendship or sexual attraction. The kind of something that won't sway by time or circumstance. "Agape love" ... even though, that love which began for the wrong reasons can be restored and redeemed. If.. I'm not your everything.... please replace me, I'm not irreplaceable. Smiling, because I dare to love 1 Corinthians 13.

Wow Mista... Is there really a process where couples can disagree with dignity? lol shaking my head.... Dignity typically checks out the second the argument goes from "I'm not saying anything" to "has this negro lost his mind"?! As much as we wanna take the higher road, the truth of the matter is, we don't. Yes, we say things we shouldn't say... Yes, we point out things we shouldn't show... And we most definitely stop listening when we should listen.  We go into the argument knowing that when it's all over, someone is gonna get mad, there will be a period of silence and then the "make up". It's a vicious cycle. But what people don't admit is, there is some truth to the things you've expressed.... I don't care how many people say they didn't mean it.. THEY REALLY DID. So why lie for the sake of an argument? If more people expressed their feelings regularly, there wouldn't be a need to disagree with dignity. Your mate would know when ur pissed.  Your mate would know when ur feeding them bs. And they definitely would know that even though u love them, u get tired of the same ole ish. Bottom line.. If ur honest with ur mate and u communicate honestly no matter what, those arguments will be few and far between anyway. Save urself the grief.. The headaches.. And take those small body shots. I'd rather take the body shots any day rather than a knockout.... Those are harder come back from. Ijs...

Mista.. Glad ur back :)

How can you submit to him and lean on him?

We are traveling through life unconnected and unexamined, but we're careful to maintain an image suggesting that we're okay when we really aren't. The person we present in public looks all right, while deep inside we harbor great turmoil and conflict. Making a living is not easy in our competitive world. This blog is about the husband..... often faces frustrations, discouragements, and setbacks. Some people take advantage of him, cheat him, and deceive him. Others criticize or censure him.

He'll need someone to encourage him, to appreciate him, to believe in him, and to respect him—and that is why God gave him a wife! He will be able to bear a great deal more hardship in the workaday world if he knows that he has a wife at home who admires him, trusts him, and stands by him, whatever happens. If he gets the same sort of treatment at home that he gets in the working world, he will be tempted to try some form of escape which will lead to unhappiness for all concerned. But the thought of a smile coupled with a little admiration and encouragement will draw him to his home like a magnet. 

Just think as God...... planned for a husband’s love to meet his wife’s needs, so he planned for the wife’s submission to meet her husband’s needs. While a woman’s God-given nature is to be dependent, a man senses an inner urge to take charge. No matter what he says or how he acts, he deeply resents any tactic his wife may use to dominate or manipulate him. Furthermore, a leader must have respect and recognition, and that is exactly what God wants the wife to provide. “The wife must see to it that she deeply respects her husband.”93 God made the husband to lead; the wife must let him lead, treating him as a leader should be treated.

 So ladies if you are thinking.... How can I submit to him and lean on him?” Try it! Try submitting to him as unto the, Lord, in everything. Just obey the Word and entrust the consequences to the Lord! Defer to your husband’s judgment when he really ought to make the decision. Express some confidence in his abilities instead of running him down, ridiculing him, belittling him, or comparing him with other men. Tell him that you think he’s the greatest, and that you thank God for having him to lean on. Then step back.... and watch God use your attitude to make a man out of him, the man God wants him to be a Man of Valor.

A SON'S LOVE

Hi! Thank you for visiting the site. My name is Terence Jones, Debra's son. I wanted to help create this page to raise funds for treatments for my mother. On January 15, 2014. My life as I knew it stopped dead in its tracks. This was the date I received a phone call that my 55 years old mother ,the love of my life, had cancer being diagnosed with one form is scary enough but unfortunately she's been diagnosed with two forms Invasive Carcinoma. Which spread to her axillary to form another form of cancer known as adenocarcinoma, something I had never heard of before. Meet Debra L. Scott a single parent mom to me, but mother to many. Her love truly stretches beyond those who know her. Debra is Known for holiday meals that exceeds expectations and always thinking of those less fortunate then we've been even when other's thought less. She always instilled in us to help those in need. Some of her dreams are to see me and my sister establish tight net families of our own and I refuse to let her dreams for us die.    So now this Cancer, As I said before I've taken a leave of absence from my life. I currently live in Irving Tx but as of the phone call Jan. 15 2014 a date that won't ever leave my mind. I dropped everything to comeback home to Texarkana Tx to be with her to attack and beat this thing with her and be with her every step of the way. I've consumed  myself with research and knowing every last horrible detail about this disease the different treatment options, cost, and outcomes of all. But my MOTHER, Debra has vowed that the "roadblocks" ahead wouldn't stop her life. I know my views are biase in this statement but my mother is possibly the most postive, strongest, and stubborn person I have ever met. Don't get me wrong she has been doing plenty of research through her faith and preparing herself for the tough journey ahead. Knowing their's no guarantee's I now know times like this there is only HOPE and BELIEF. This I know is the exact truth that she wants to share with the world.     Debra, with the help of my sister and I, has looked into many different health and wellness centers as well as cancer treatment facilities that treat people just like her unfortunately the BEST places seem very expensive and not covered by her insurance, but with much research she has narrowed it down to what she believes is the best match for her Oasis Of Hope. This center combines conventional and alternative treatment which is what Debra is ultimately hoping for. My confidences and faith is strong as well but my biggest fear is "time" knowing with everyday that passes without this process being expedited her Cancer is growing.  Please help my family and me get my mother treated and CURED. She truly believes and is at peace with the approaches and path she is taking. When she overcomes this I know that she will continue on her path to help others all over the world ,for this, we cannot wait.No donation is to small, all are welcome and so very appreciated... http://www.gofundme.com/6dbspk