Asking all dem questions...

Part I:  The Cause...

......the girl be: "Where? Who? You've been where? Wit who? Uh huh.... for real? Oh really, that's how you feel?" And the Guy be like: "Askin' all them questions. Askin' all them questions why you askin' all them questions makin' statements. Assumin'? Askin' all them questions. Askin' all them questions why you askin' all them questions makin' statements. Assumin'?" kmsl

You know the drill.  And it's just like he said. You start with the Cupcake phase...it's new...u bend over backwards...compromise...they're ur boo. Time passes....you become comfortable...and then all HELL hits the fan.  The two seconds ur mate normally takes to respond becomes two minutes....the straight home after work becomes, I gotta make a stop first...u know....


My question to you is, how did you get there? I mean, how often before getting into a relationship, do you ask urself:  1. Do I really have the time to invest into this relationship? (If you're working two jobs, a single parent, volunteering and barely getting 4 hours of sleep--it's clear, you DO NOT have time to invest into a relationship.  Take care of home and try again later...) 2.  Do I really WANT to be in a relationship? ( I mean do you REALLY want a mate??? Or...or you in lust with the thought of having someone...) 3.  Am I willing to communicate whatever is going on in my life so this relationship can work? (Secrets don't exist in successful relationships.  IF you have a person that is sincere, they will want to help in any way possible--but they can't read minds.  You have to be comfortable discussing and sometimes accepting help) And finally 4. Am I READY for a relationship? (Rebound relationships are a waste of time. Give yourself time to heal...time to discard the garbage and prepare urself for something new. No one likes to be compared to the last person...so save them some time as well as yourself. )

In my opinion, asking those questions, PRIOR to the relationship will not only cut down on the bs but eliminate "asking all dem questions". Relationships are about communicating not accusations. IJS...

Coming Soon....Part II: The Solution by Mista

(stay tuned)

                               <> Mista's 13 cents... the solution to "asking all dem questions".

 Smh .. Question? Do you wish your mate would quit doing the things that bother you? o_O ...Then it's time to stop doing the things that bother them.... I mean will you be thoughtful enough to discover and avoid the behavior that cause life to be unpleasant for your mate? Will you dare to be delightful? So often we think that we can change another.... but truth be told we can only change ourselves .... and when you do, by default you force others to change because of the simple difference ... that we're no longer the same person <> not the same person ... not treated the same !! Change will happen ... biblically there's many insights given.

Besides, remember.... bad relationships are usually the result of bad decisions making. Think about this... women have all the power, but they're the ones who are expected to submit. Hmmm, now there's a concept. Uh..oh, there's that word submit ..... <> I hear you saying, "I'm not submitting to no man. He needs to be serving me!! Well, if you're with a man you feel you can't submit to .... then you're with the wrong man. 

A man must lead and know the role God has appointed to him. It's called checks and balances. It's what keeps women from taking advantage and keeps them from being taken advantage of. Imagine the problems we'd have if men were the leaders and possessed all the power. I think you get the point.. ijs Why reinvent the wheel? If your realationship isn't working, and asking all dem questions are not getting answered ... it's a sign you're probably not using your powers correctly. As the saying goes,"Power corrupts, and absolute power corrupts absolutely."